Hurting for good, healthy hair

12 May

I feel guilty.  I shouldn’t have done it.  Whyyyy did I do it??

What did I do?

Me with straight, fine hair

I got a perm – an unhealthy and powerful, damaging, straightening, smoothing, shining, make-me-feel-better chemical relaxer.

Yup, that’s me with my relaxed head plopped in front of my computer doing healthy hair research, again.  I’m currently interested in finding out what would be best for me: to stay permed or “go natural”? Decisions, decisions.  And I made one last week.  I was holding on so strong, but I caved.  It’s just, I want to be happy with the hair God has given me, but I also feel that even though it burns, is unhealthy and can cause breakage – straight, manageable, shiny hair is just better.  Hm.

Tyra Banks talked about this very notion on one of her shows.  She asked the question: what does it mean to have “good” hair?  Here’s one part of her “good hair” show:

Anyway, I’m also trying to figure out which products I can use to keep my hair in tip top healthy shape!  I guess you could say, I’m on a healthy hair journey … yeah, that’s getting a little played out; google “healthy hair journey” and see what you get.  But, it must mean something if all these black women feel the need to be on healthy hair journeys, right?


And I am learning from these Web chronicles.  Tomorrow I will be 23, so I guess now is a great time to really really start figuring out how to prevent my hair from chronically breaking.  Yeah, that’s a problem with me.  Also, I hope to learn how to get my hair to grow to a length that doesn’t always stop above the shoulders! 

So, this is the beginning of something big.  I am going to write about my hair escapades and do some research. And I will want to hear from you:  are you in the same boat?  Have you figured out a routine that works for your hair?  What are your most shocking and even funny hair stories?  (By the way, I think this topic will last for much longer than a week!)

Also, I hope to answer more questions: why do black women have a hard time with this hair thing?  Why is hair just a universal self-defining feature for all women?  How can women maintain beautiful, healthy hair from the outside and from the inside? 

Well, I am assuming healthy hair starts from within.  I’m assuming that by believing you can achieve something, you will.  So then, let’s get started!  This time next year I hope to have amazing, beautiful, long, healthy hair.  (Wow, that was really scary to say and believe, but let’s go with it!)


3 Responses to “Hurting for good, healthy hair”

  1. Melissa May 13, 2010 at 7:19 am #

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I have been needing to research this same topic myself bcuz I was thinking of going natural myself….But am addicted to the ” creamy crack”….My own personal issue with going natural isn’t really about my hair being healthy becuz I know that is the healthiest for u…but I think for most black women going “natural” is also a confidence issue….when u make a transition in your hair like that, for me anyways is “will I be able to rock this style”…may sound superficial, but America makes u feel that is something to consider… u will be judged or perceived to the world with nonconventional straight hair…..i k ow that we are evolving in this world where different is better…..but are we there yet???? Definitely keep me posted on ur research….Great topic!!!!

  2. Momma V May 13, 2010 at 11:07 am #

    I will continue to pray for you and your hair! There’s always a soft curl…..

  3. Yenny March 29, 2011 at 5:38 pm #

    Hi I’m from Colombia and I am researching a lot about hair with chemicals mistreated but at the same time looking for alternatives to straightening your hair naturally, whether plants, products that you have at home that I desricen the hair but without damaging my hair is African and most try very hard to manage bone that if your research is to find another method I’d like to know for example in France to a method that uses no chemical but the idea would be to know the formulas or recipes to take home , here in my country get a lot cally start Channel with chemical but do not reach those who say they are not chemists like me know what you think of what I write, I send a greeting from Colombia.
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